Hello all its that time of year again where its only a few days or for me a few hours until the new year and once again here I am doing my blog post for this year its – Nurture1314. For those you don’t know about the Nurture Blogposts it all started last year 2012 at the end of the year I cant remember wholes idea it was the concept is that you right/blog post about so many things from that year in the case of 2012 – 12 positive or so not positive things that happened and then 13 things for 2013 for hopes for the next year so in the Nurture13/14 case im going to write/mention 13 positive or not so positive things that has happened the past year and then 14 hopes for 2014.

Well where do I start…….Here I go 🙂

13 Positive/Not So Positive Things That Happened The Past Year

1 – Well the year started on a not so positive start as many of my Twitter/Facebook and Face to Face Friends will know that my parents sadly spit up which was a real shame and I do still blame myself for it as helped my mum find this certain person old school friend back in her day about 20 or years ago on Facebook and we found him, Although I never expected it was going to be more than friends but I soon worked it out that she was cheating. However on a positive note things have improved oddly since she left I now get on with much better and also closer to my dad and I think me and my sister are even more closer which I will mention more later anyway back to the parents spit. at first I was quite upset about it and felt really down but I have now come to the conculissian that I am glad to see her not depressed  any more like we found she was and that she is now happy again and all that matters really is that she is happy we only live one we may aswell within reason make the most of it.

2 – on a positive note of course Oscar our dog is now amazingly 1 years old now and is so funny. In a way its interesting how he picks you up when you feel down he will go to Rachel a lot his (main career)  when she is down sometimes and also will come to me for hugs when I am down every so often. Its also interesting when we take Oscar for walks how makes a child’s day you can so tell when they smile and come see him and once he stopped a toddler crying. it must be a dog thing that I would like to find out more about its quite amazing really

3 – This is somewhat positive and not. GCSEs – As many of you who know me well will know I started doing GCSE English in September and it all started very well and we started reading OF Mice And Men Book. But around November/December I had health proberms relation to my teeth see more below but due to the proberms mainy from that I got behind with my GCSE English work and was recommend to restart the GCSE English course next September which will be September 2014 . –

4 – Not so positive – Teeth: as mentioned above I have had some health proberms relating to my teeth they looked quite awful and they were in so much pain I went into hospital for an urgent booked appointment to have them seen and have work on them infact the dentist there said they had not seen so bad teeth  in a 20 year old before, what was mainly wrong was that there was a infection  on one my front teeth that had a hole in between another front tooth and if I had left it which I wasn’t going to do I the infection could of spread to other areas of my body and I may of died!  its probably time to explain why they were like that.. well since I have been young I have hated brushing my teeth and never kept up with it so much as I should of done as I grew older I just never brushed my teeth apart from every once in a while prior to this problem I hadn’t done my teeth for about a year at least! so you could probably image  how bad they were..  anyway   I have now had some work on them and there Is more to go but I am now committed to doing my teeth and i do them every day now and im glad I am now getting them sorted. I hope I haven’t scared you too much with all that 🙂

5 – Not so Positive – Just about 1 month or so before my mum cheated and my parents spit. My sister came out to us all and told us that she had been self harming. I remember when she came out she broke down and it made me very sad as we are very close, although I knew something was up no one did listen to me which was a shame. She doesn’t know why she started it but anyway she went for some CBT and is now on some depressing Medicine. And has now stopped self harm. The reason I wanted to share this you all though is that she said the CBT didn’t help but the depressing Medicine does to some extent but one evening she said to me: You know what you saved my life and I cant thank you enough. Infact she even said i would be a great School Counsellor/Children’s Counseller or Learning Mentor which i am very much already interested in but i will go on to that below in another this positive thing.  I had been supporting her showing that she could get better and believing in her and it was mainly all down to that. that has helped. I got quite emotional  when she said that which bring me onto a another thing below.

6 – Quite a positive thing –  Getting a certain job – After all that happened with Rachel I am now very interested even more so in Teaching but before I teach I would like to work in a family support role  as many of you know I would like to become a learning mentor and that fits that bill but also I am looking at other roles like Family Support Worker or Home School Worker etc I feel my experience with helping Rachel in a way has helped me that I would like to do that role very much more and has got me right into it and if I can do what I did and helped like I did with Rachel and then I will making a difference.

7 – Very Positive – SENChat – As Many of you know 2013 this year has been a great year for me in terms projects wise. In July time about 8 months ago! I setup #SENChat and what a great idea it was. For those you don’t know #SENChat is a weekly chat on Twitter about everything to do with special needs! we have our chats every Tuesday from 8pm to 9pm and so far its been a great experience and it has been taken up very well I was worried a bit when I set up #SENChat as the day after we launched TES came along with their own which I was if I am honest a little annoyed as it felt like they had copied my idea and as they have a stronger following as they are a leading education newspaper they could of stopped mine from running if I hadn’t got any interest in mine. But after a couple of messages to one another we agreed that we wouldn’t promote each others and would our own ones on a different time and day so we wouldn’t make people confused! And so far its gone very well and we are starting up again after Christmas And New Year. and #SENChat has been going for 8 months now! which is totally amazing and i have more plans for it for 2014 so watch out! 🙂

8 – Another Positive Thing – About 1 month ago now i had the great chance of joining the 5SC Word Challenge Team which has been great and i am looking forward to commenting on more of the children’s blog posts after the Christmas and New Year break. Thanks to @TheHeadsOffice for allowing me to join the team 🙂 Which now leads me onto another thing!

9 – Positive – Twitter: Twitter has been great over the past year i cant believe i have now been on it for 3 years or so now since 2009 when i was around 16/17 although i followed anyone then i started using propery it about 2 years so and i cant believe that has been so long. I love all my twitter friends lots of them pick me up when i am down aswell as Facebook friends but i use twitter more as my teacher/education network but just tweeting about general life at the same time. i am hoping to meet a few twitter friends in 2014! so here’s to that!

10 – Another Positive thing! – My Health! – Has improved over the past year although part of has got worse i do general feel more happier in my self which is good which i will mention on my last positive note.

11 – Positive again! – School Governor – A tiny of you may know this but some of you wont as I didn’t tell many people but I applied to become a school governor at the start of the year in 2013 and the LA that I applied to didn’t really get back. I applied again with SGOSS and funny enough my application few them went to the same LA i applied directly with which i didn’t know would happen 😛 anyway they found. a school vacancy for me and passed my details on to this school. Update – although it look them a while to get in touch they now have and I am on the final stages of becoming a school governor 🙂

12 – Another Positive Thing – My Future Plans – How the year has gone and the things and life experiences it has thrown at me and has funny enough helped me with my plans for the future which you will see more soon but i am very interested in teaching even more and from my experiences and mainly  Rachel experiences with her health proberms etc. I am interested in doing a family support type role even more than I did and I would like be in a family support role before hopefully going into teaching!  to help with all that I have also started a child care course and i have only just started it and its going well 🙂

13 – The Best Positive Overall –  Of course i cant forgot back in July time as many of you know –  I asked someone out and they said yes and o which bring me to my wonderful Girlfriend Claire – who has been totally amazing and very supportive few the year since i have been with her and has been there for me when i have been down.. She has made so much more happier and i cant thank her enough. here is a photo of us together 🙂

Me and My lovey wonderful Girlfriend Claire - For you Claire xxx

Me and My lovey wonderful Girlfriend Claire – For you Claire xxx


That’s the end of 13 Positive or not Positive things that happened in 2013!


Right onto 14 hopes for 2014

1 – For Rachel to keep improving with her proberms as she means the world to me as she knows.

2 – To keep up with my work on my teeth proberms

3 – I would also like start sorting my health proberms as some of you know i have OCD. i would quite like to be sorted so it don’t stress me out so much. and other general health proberms are similar to that. Its going to be hard but bring it on.

4 – To started reading more. I have read more this year but i would like to read a lot a lot more than I do as I have some amazing books that i got for my 21st birthday which come to think of was another positive thing that happened in 2013.

5 – To carry on with my Childcare course and to complete and pass it which will help with my future plans.

6 – To get ready for my GCSE English again for September 2014. One way I can do that is like I have mentioned above and that is to read more. Also im going to buy some lower level English Course Book aswell as course books on GCSE English to get my ready to restart the GCSE English course for like i said above September 2014!

7 – To learn to say No! more and stop letting others from letting me do my work when they come and detracked me like they been while doing this big long blog post!

8 – To check my spelling more mainy on Twitter as it really annoys me when i don’t do it right then again its only twitter probably that something i would like to do because of my OCD. we will see anyway!

9 – To become a school governor with one or the other LA also that school  doesn’t to get back – i would still like to be a school governor maybe due to the fact they are in SM is why they have been taken so long to get in touch and maybe if I join them as a school governor i can sort them out and help make a difference!
10 – I would like to get into politics more. i have got into it more this year and i just about currently am a supporter of labour. I would like to become a labour member which i will promise to get sorted! I want Gove out of education and i would like to see him lose his job!

11- Never the less i do like Free Schools are one of Gove’s ideas. Many of my friends though don’t like them but i do and i would like to visit some for a plan for the future..

12 –  Carry on developing #SENChat and start my what is special needs project traveling to schools. doing disability awareness lesson and getting the schools and people generally to sign the billboard of what is special needs. If you would like more please do get in touch 🙂

13 Work towards my future plans mentioned above but i will do a blog post more in the future about but try get some work experience or a job that is similar or related so I can work towards me getting a job in a family support role.. and working towards becoming a primary school teacher

14 – And of course last of all but the best keep my  relationship going with and Claire and general hoping we can start chatting more and seeing one another as i love her to bits 🙂


That’s it. I hope enjoyed reading all that. it took 3 hours or so to write so i hope you enjoyed reading my #Nurture1314 blog post and please do get in touch if you want to Twitter is @DJTom 🙂

Thanks For Reading
Tom 🙂